To cuddle or sleep; what the hell are we supposed to do after sex?’ It’s a question on the mind of every sexually active conscientious man and woman, especially after a romp. Evolutionary psychologists at University of Michigan and Pennsylvania’s Albright College tried to find out. They recently surveyed 456 people about their experiences and desires after sex, and what it says about their relationship. They suggest falling asleep before their partner may be a non-conscious way for men to ‘foreclose’ any conversations about commitment.
But we say, enough with the post-coital gamesmanship. Why waste the best moments of your afterglow in dull unconsciousness when you can indulge in postplay? You’ve all heard of foreplay. Now, learn some tricks of “postplay” — intimate actions done after sex or after orgasm of one or both partners to keep the vibes flowing.
“People love to know they are doing a good job. It makes them feel attractive and worthwhile. And talking dirty is the best way you can tell your partner that,” writes author Evan Michaels in The Dirty Talk Handbook. If you don’t know how to start, tell him what he did during sex that turned you on. Then, tell him what you’d like to do to him next time. It will keep him thinking about your comments long after you’ve left the room.
Just because you’re not spooning after sex doesn’t make postplay hand-off. Massage maintains the physical connection while imbuing a sense of ease and relaxation. During postplay, keep the movements light and slow, and stick to the torso and legs. Stay away from sensitive zones like his boy parts.
Joint hot shower
Pull him into the shower after sex and run your slippery, soapy hands all over his body as the warm water runs over him. The shower will not only keep you physically close but will also prolong the post-orgasmic flush from the just-concluded session.
Log on to Facebook together and laugh about people’s stupid status updates. Unlikely as it sounds, it’s a great postplay bonding game that involves no extra effort. After particularly cheesy status updates, laugh conspiratorially with your partner with lines like, “So, our friend is changing diapers and we had sex like porn stars!”
For some unexplainable reason, bad TV is great after sex. Action films, dumb sitcoms and terrible reality shows are perfect for making witty commentary.